Dating dilemma: Can I be in love with 2 Guys/Girls
- by MaxAxe
A friend of mine asked me this question today. Can he be in love with 2 girls at the same time? On an average, I’ve been asked this question not less than 20 times by Girls and Guys close friends and distant ones. The answer is more or less the same almost every time, however it is also different every time. How? Read on and you’ll come to know.
So, can you really love 2 people at the same time? The answer is; YES. But there’s a catch.
Technically you can love a number of people, not just one or two, it just depends on how strong or weak you are, emotionally. Now this doesn’t depend on how a person projects themselves, this aspect is always hidden until and unless you take the pains to understand the person. From what I’ve observed, the people who are emotionally strong generally do not tend to get involved with everyone around them as compared to the emotionally weak people who do end up getting involved with more than 1 person, sometimes more than 1 person at the same time.
Now please don’t get me wrong, but some people just show that they are emotionally strong, by shutting themselves out to the world. Others just remain strong until they find the one that can make them weak.
Anyway back to the main question; Yes you can love two or more people at the same time. We all make these choices on the basis of different reasons, one of these reasons is physical attraction and the other is emotional. You might feel physically attracted to one of them and emotionally attracted to both or it could also be both emotional and physical for both of them, well in this case you got really lucky.
So, what do you do now? Do you let one of them go? Sever the ties? Or do you keep them both? To these questions the only answer I can give you right now is – GOOD QUESTION!
The answer to the above questions is completely situational.
Situation 1
1st of all, do they both know each other or about each other? If they know each other but don’t know that you are involved with both of them… the situation might get tricky and you may end up losing one of them permanently.
Situation 2
If they don’t know each other but do know that you’re involved with 2 of them, the situation will make itself clear really fast… trust me on that, jealousy would take care of everything and you would need to make choices really fast. Which one do you choose? We’ll talk about that in the end.
Situation 3
They don’t know each other and they don’t know if you’re involved with more than another one. Then you’re just acting smart… hoping to get lucky. And I don’t blame you, I’ve been in that situation too… but you can’t really be that selfish, you can’t really think of hurting both of your ‘love interests’. So again, you need to make a choice and fast.
The Choice- The conclusion
So, it’s time to make a choice. Again, depending on the situation, you can make the choice early or late. However, sooner or later you would need to make one (choice) if you want to keep at least one of your ‘love interests’. This step is rather simple (in theory at least) the choice you would or should make has to be based on a long term decision. Whom do you want to be with for a longer time, who are you more attracted to emotionally than physically, who is the one that makes you feel special and who is the one that loves you more and trust me, the answer is not both! Give it a serious thought.
The Closure The closure is quite simple; Just be honest. Just be honest to both of them (if you have the guts and this is actually for the better). If you don’t have the guts to be honest with both of them at least be honest with the one whom you have to let go of. Yes there would be heartbreak yes there would be pain, but it will wear off sooner or later and the best thing you can do is, still be friends with the one you let go of (if they are willing to still be friends with you, but this doesn’t always happen).
You got another situation than the ones I mentioned? Just let me know through the forums, and maybe I can still help you out.
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in JLT by MaxAxe, 16-12-09 18:34
