What to do when you’re feeling low? - How do you get out of that ‘low feeling’
- by MaxAxe
That low feeling aka depression can happen to anyone and everyone at anytime. I know because I’ve been through a few of these phases myself and still go through one of these once every 2 years or so at least. Depression has its levels and types and people suffer from it for different reasons, however its most usually due to a problem or issue which hasn’t been solved. Like I said earlier, there are different levels of depression; sometimes the depression becomes clinical and people have to take medication for it. However, you don’t need to start popping pills and declare yourself clinical every time you feel low.
Get back from that low feeling and getting back to the usual happy you; is as easy as it is getting into that low feeling.
We all have those low periods of our lives and they do happen for very valid reasons for these feelings; mostly it’s a traumatic experience that one might have gone through recently or even simpler reasons like continued stress due to office problems, family problems or even financial matters or some reason that could not be easily resolved. If these problems/issues are allowed to continue the way they are, the ‘low feeling’ can turn into a full blown clinical depression.
So what do you do?The 1st and most important thing is to get out of that ‘low feeling’. If you keep feeling low, the chances are the original problems may never get solved because you would be too into yourself than working on solving the issue. What’s more? If you don’t get out of ‘feeling low’ syndrome, it could very well turn into clinical depression and I’ve seen this happen with perfectly sane people.
How do you get out of that low feeling?
1st thing, stay away from additional negativity- When you’re feeling low, you tend to look for sympathy, and people who share sympathy have a negative vibe around them that they spread around. People have sympathy because they themselves might have gone through something similar. So actually they’re not sympathetic towards you, they are being sympathetic towards themselves.
In the real world 2 negatives don’t make a positive, avoid being around negative people avoid looking for sympathy. If you want company, be in company of people who show you the way and DO NOT sit and cry with you. In addition, you can and should have a look at the positive things around you, your house, your car any and all of your loved ones (parents included) your well being; basically anything and everything that is RIGHT around you be glad that you have SOMETHING, there are people in this world who have NOTHING and yet they are living. Compare yourself to Stephen Hawking if you have to, the man who has nothing and yet has everything. Honestly, you’re just lucky.
Comfort food; it works: Critics say a lot about comfort food, how its not the best thing and it makes you gain weight and it’s not healthy and whatnot. However, I beg to differ. When you’re feeling low, there’s nothing like a Hot chocolate fudge or a cold chocolate drink, Ice-cream works too. The best food however I found is fruits, the aroma the juices they are just amazing. Peach, Apple, Grapes, Watermelon and kiwifruit; this work best for me, you need to figure out which ones suit you.
Stay away from liquor and smokes, these things just work as enhancers, so if you’re in a bad or low mood, they would just enhance the same kind of mood. If you’re feeling low, you’ll feel lower thanks to these things.
Become Active; - Being slow, lethargic, sleepy n stuff would not help. To get out of the low mood, you need to become active. Now I know this is the toughest part, especially when you’re feeling low. So you can give this responsibility to a friend of yours who can get you off you’re the bed and drag you out. This works the fastest. If you don’t have anyone near you who’s willing to help; then simply do Yoga. Breathing exercises work like a charm; Yoga would get all your necessary body juices flowing.
Work on solving the issues that got you feeling low in the 1st place;- The low feeling would come back if the issues aren’t worked out. If it’s something work related, it’s the easiest to solve, because you have the option of moving out if it comes down to it. Sometimes when the problem is related to moving out, then you just need to think of yourself as a person with multiple talents. Human beings were not made to do or be good at just one thing. You, me and everyone else can work at more than one thing and be good at it too.
If its related to a person or a loved one, sometimes it can be solved by just talking to the person and sometimes it can’t. Again if it comes down to it, at the max you would need to move out of the relationship. I know this is harsh, however like I said … “if it comes down to it”. Remember most of the times things can be solved by just talking. Don’t wait for the other person to come to you and talk, even if it’s their fault.
If it’s a tragedy that struck, then it may take some time. But don’t let it bog you down, time is the biggest healer in this case, however you don’t have to lay low and wait for it.
If it’s something you’d like to discuss just head over to the forums, maybe we or one of the forum users can help.
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i have loads of friends but none r my best frnds... dho i am too many ...
my bf is my best frrnd
but im nt his best frnd n that does upset me..
things going wrong at my wrk place
n im onli comfortable telling him but ryt nw hes too busy wid his own life
its frndships day
n i wanna do nuthing.... meet nobody
so low.. n i hate dis feeling !
Hey SS.... it doesn't matter if you have real friends whom you'd like to go out with or not... you can always have friends at other places.... phone friends .. email friends ... net friends... whatever makes you happy.
Just venture out a little and see what the world has to offer... looking for everything from just 1 person can sometimes be frustrating... specially when the other person doesnt feel the need to get everything from you.
mohit..i think its the best thing which cud have happened to u ..i had an crush on one of my class mates though i knew that it was pyar impossible i just cud nt help but think abt her all the time the result was that i became so much concious abt my self that i came up with a much better 'personality'(in my case it was being more studius) and later on found i used to get so much of female attention that i had never even dreamed of....
...so just keep improving
I've been feeling low for quite sometime. I'm a young, 19 y/o gay male that just can't seem to find the right guy. I just feel that straight people have it easy. All my friends have boy/girl friends and it seems I'm the odd one out. I'm finding myself constantly jealous of my roomate, and good friend just because she was able to find what her definiton of the perfect guy is. I've tried everything. Joing the pride club at school to online dating. Just let it get to my head too much. Don't really know how to escape the thoughts.
Jess... have you ever thought that you might be too young to get serious about this stuff ? I know its the time when everybody starts looking for a mate... but then again, just cause you haven't found one... doesn't mean you wont find one. Usually what I've noticed is ... when you're about to get something fabulous... your patience will be tested. The forces of the world check... if you deserve to get what you're about to get
i m a positive thinker but the thinks happening in my life from few years are not what i want, i mean the results of my work are not fruitful,i haven't faced any success from 2 years
as a result i have given up all the hope and satisfied myself by saying that i cant do anything in my life.
earlier i dont used to believe in luck but now i believe, my thinking is getting negative day by day.
plz help me.
I have been in a serious relation for 6 years, during this time she had 3 other very close friends.. she had friends and we had common friends but these were different, she spent hours on phone with them. I could not digest that, she was my best friend, and i could open up only infront of her. I could not say the same for her..
Now all of a sudden, she says she cant stand me, and is off with one of those 3 guys..
i dunno what to do..?
I just cant get over with her now and am having very disturbing thoughts these days...
please help me...
I have a blank canvas feeling,low,sad,angry,upset,fustrated and very very stressed out...no one seems to understand where im at at the moment . I am totally drained beeing sick all the time where im so low. just dont no where to turn. I have a husband and little 3 year old boy. I am really struglling..im a usually loud chatty and bubbly person .. my friends all seem to be busy with there familys andd no time for me.. my husband is supportive but thinks i got to snap out of it.. but easier said then done.. any advice please help....
hi, i am a MBA graduate always been ambitious and stuff.. i found a job which would lead me out of home.. because i never like living wit my family.. i did get a chance to leave.. i had even packed my stuff.. but then my company changed my location to my home town and gave someone else the chance to re locate.. its the most horrible feeling.. now i am stuck and don know wht to do i feel really bad and the thought of me comin so close to something i wanted.. and nt getting it.. i really hurts
4 months ago i lost my dad. life has been a standstill since that time.
i cant seem to get on with the business of living. looking at my mom weeping and trying to put on a brave front breaks my heart.
Images haunt all the time and i find myself unable to enjoy anything much.
every other time i have ever been low pales into insignificance.. as this is something I can never change. He's never going to come back. Death is final.
I donot know how old you are and what caused your father's death. I do understand gravity of your grief. No doubt, time is the great healer. But you need to add your efforts also to get going with the life. I lost my mother 4 years ago. It was very tough for me. That time my father gave me an article to read which narrates an incident from Mahabharata. That described how Menaka, forced to leave her daughter Shakuntala on the earth would watch her from the sky. This helped me a lot.Accepting the fact that the very person whom you loved a lot and who was with you in every sitution is no more with you is very difficult. But when I started thinking that my mother is watching me from heaven and I am no longer alone, helped me to get going with the life. In these 4 years, I got my Ph.D., a very good salaried job and I bought a car. At other times, one would feel very sad thinking that mom is not present to see this growth. But this very thought of she watching from heaven did not make me sad.
At times, memories of my misbehavior towards her would haunt me. And the guilty feeling would not go away at all. But then at such low moments, I started recalling the good and happy times that we spent together. That made me realize, I was not that bad child of hers. I did give her many pleasures in her life. This would reduce the guilty feeling. Rather, now when I think about the relationship between her and me, I realize how much a girl child is important for a mother. I am thinking about adopting a girl as I donot have any.
One more thing helped me. One of my friend had lost her mother when she was a small kid. I keep on thinking how much I am fortunate that I had my mother till my 33. There are many who haven't seen their mothers or fathers. We are lucky, we had them.
My mother died at the age of 62. Not quite an age for death particularly when medical science is so advanced. Some complications had started in her system and she was under treatment. We had realized this could worsen. But she had it instantly by heart failure. Had she been around till this time, I donot know what she might had faced. So we keep on thinking death was the best thing that could happen. My dad says, it was a happy death. I know, you are surprised by this statement. Even I thought he was out of his mind. But when you think about it from her perspective, that is a very true statement.
These thoughts helped me. Believe me, these will help you also. Take your mother to some other place, may be on a tour of 10-15 days if you could afford it. That will help to eleveate her mood. Donot go to any relative's place. They look at you with sorry faces and that worsens the sitution.
in JLT by MaxAxe, 16-12-09 18:34
