Beginners guide to Relationships;Relationship, Support & How to go about it
-by ShaTTeR
Why do relations fail?
We all have seen quite a few relationships break no matter how young or old we are. That’s the time we wonder, why does this happen? Why doesn’t the other person understand? This is just for the fact that they don’t know much about each other, or the things that they’ve heard might not be true. Usually friends spread rumors about a person for their own reasons, which makes it hard for the relation to stay put and due to lack of ‘understanding’ they breakup. To put it in simple terms, they do not LOVE each other or they don’t care to evaluate if they really do. Most of the time It’s the Infatuation which is mistaken to be as “true love.”
How to go about it?There is nothing new to be learnt here. All of us know how to go about it. Just that they are either scared, shy or rather too arrogant to know about each other. Knowing about each other is the best and most important thing to do before getting into a serious relationship.
Let me explain in steps:
First you express your feelings towards the other person. Then all of a sudden don’t jump into conclusions by his/her first reaction, tell them the reason. Tell them how you admire them, tell them that there’s a curiosity in you to know about them. Then talk about your experiences, keep giving them the chance to speak. Tell them about your personal life, there’s nothing to hide here if you are genuinely interested in spending a lifetime with them.
Talk about whatever you feel like about anything in the world. Try to have a discussion on most of the topics you can, be truthful here else you won’t find it interesting and you would unknowingly give hints to the other person that you aren’t interested. After knowing each other well and by well I mean at least about their family, their likes, dislikes, good, bad, his/her views on different stuff etc.
Then is the time to ask the other person that is he/she willing to take the relationship further rather ask yourself first that are you ready to take the relationship further. If both of you agree then you are supposed to take care of the other person and love, I don’t mean the infatuation way.
After all this it is your option on what to do. After doing everything I wrote, I guess you would have brains to continue your relation from here as from here; everyone has to deal with it and take care of their relationship themselves.
The most important thing is - SupportIf you don’t support your partner then your partner doesn’t deserve you and you don’t deserve your partners love. Always be by the side of your partner; never ever fail him/her. I hope by reading all this you understand how serious it is to be true to one’s own self and others. Love is not Infatuation, keep that in mind. Know more about your partner. Don’t jump to conclusions and never backstab. This is the worst thing you can do. If you have anything in your mind do tell it to your partner never hide anything. Be it be embarrassing say it, it won’t hurt you, it’ll just make you more trustworthy and mind you don’t misuse this trust that can cost you your soul and I mean it. In the end I would like to say; be true and support no matter what even; if u don’t like him/her say it frankly don’t wait for it to get out of proportion.
Signing off
Sumit Mukherji
aka
ShaTTeR
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Telling Everything is the best thing in my View. If You Dont these 'secrets' can haunt you for life, or if your partner gets to know about it from other source it can be more devastating and more over If your partner does not understand the 'truth' then i dont think the partner is suitable for you. Again This is my View.
Aditi
There is nothing like overtruthfull, either you tell the truth or you dont. Like it or not, but the truth would come out sooner or later, no matter how much you try to hide it. So its best if the concerned person comes to know from you and in time. I've been a victim of this situation ... a certain truth was hidden from me for a very long time, though I came to know later but this caused a huge problem. Either you can come forward straight and have no regrets ... or carry on a regret of hiding and keep feeling guilty till it comes out.
Besides ... the writer has not suggested that you broadcast your little secrets to everyone... tell the secrets only to the ones that really matter. 
Hope that helps
Cheers
MaxAxe
well gud gng sumi.... nev new tat u noe hw 2 deal wid such n issue....n awesum thin u tought ppl abt it n wats it on abt...
weel il admire u 4 doin such a great job...bt wat i feel is tat sumtym havin more faith on d partner put us in2 a darker syd......so how will ya ans 2 dis....
First of all annie. Can u plz avoid using sms/chat lingo?
and about your question
You Did not read my article or you did not understand it well. It Stresses on Supporting and believing on each other. If there is no Mutual understand then the relation is not meant to be.
To sum it up. No one is in a darker side if u have faith in each other, If the faith is true no one can separate you, and if the faith isnt true then m sorry to say you are not meant to be together.
P.S - Sorry for a sucha late reply -.-
in JLT by MaxAxe, 16-12-09 18:34
